Why 40 days of giving?
Because my brain is damaged from civilization and giving is therapy.
Because this season makes me sick with its’ bright lights and plastic toys.
Because I want to break down my walls, forget where you start and I begin.
Because I want to build a world where people take care of one another, and the land just because we can, just because we want to, just the way we always have.
Or did, before everything got all broken up and ruined.
Because I want to get it back.
Because I want to take it back.
Yes. Because I want to take back the world.
Here are days 1-5. To begin on Nov. 22nd.
Give something away.
Something that you own. A book, a mixed CD, a painting, a keepsake, a pair of socks. Anything you want. Give it to anyone you want. The girl at the coffee shop, your father, the kid down the block with the red jacket, your best friend. Notice what it feels like, this act of giving. See how it makes you feel.
Give yourself some time.
By yourself. 1 hour at least. Without your phone, computer, headphones, or any screen. Without distractions. Read a book, take a bath, go to your sit spot, go for a run. Lay down and do nothing, write a story. Be with yourself. Lose yourself. Find yourself.
Give someone a meal.
Not just any meal. The best meal you can possibly make, with the finest ingredients you can manage. Invite your friends over, take it to your neighbor, make it for your long lost brother. Or treat yourself. Let yourself be blown away by the textures, by the tastes, by the conversations they bring. Get lost in the process. Be consumed.
Give your attention
Give your attention to a project you’ve been meaning to work on; a mural, an article, a new floor in your dining room, a new garden bed. A photography show, a documentary film, organizing a rally. THROW YOURSELF INTO IT, lose track of time, go nuts. Create.
Give away something you’ve made.
By hand. Each loving stitch, each thoughtful line. A knitted sweater, a handmade card, a jar of jelly. A painting, a loaf of bread, a pair of pants. Whatever you want. Yes, it took a long time to make. Yes, you love it. Now let it go, let it go, let it go.
And here is days 6-17. More to come tomorrow.
Please share, share, and share again.
Give something you love to a stranger
A painting your sister gave you, your favorite shirt, a beloved keepsake from a long ago family vacation. To the man who delivered your pizza, the woman with the black hat you always see on your morning walk, the elderly man drinking coffee. Whatever you want, to whomever you want. Describe the object’s meaning, why it’s important to you, why you think they should have it. The exchange may feel awkward, push through it. You may have pangs of regret. Embrace them and do it anyway. Make the connection.
Give to the land
Work in your garden, help your farmer friend, tend the trail through the forest, plant a tree, add compost to barren soil. Get outside and get involved. Yes, it might be cold outside. Bundle up. We relate to the land differently when we take care of it. Build your relationship. Spend time. Work lovingly. Listen.
Give attention to the elders
The culture of destruction disrespects age, and the wisdom that comes with it. Too many of our elders are left, lonesome, abandoned in retirement homes, and empty houses. Seek out the elders. Sit with them. Read. Play games. Sing. Ask them questions, tell them your worries, listen to their stories. There are answers there, with the ones who have the perspective of many years. Reach out, pay attention, learn.
Give your talents
Write poetry? Wail on the ukulele? Take beautiful pictures, make an amazing ham sandwich, can play a nasty version of stairway to heaven on the accordion? Whatever your talents are, share them with the world today. Play a concert for friends, organize an open mike, teach a cooking class, show your neighbor how to knit. Light up the world with your passion, let the fire burn bright. Share your talent with people, give it freely, like water, like air. Be creative. Be brave.
If you know someone who is struggling, give them help. Find out what they need, and figure out how you can help them. Is it money or things? Is it someone to watch the kids, someone to talk to, a shoulder to cry on? Whatever it is, help as much as you can, without judgement, with an open heart, without asking anything in return. Challenge the idea that we are all responsible for ourselves. We’re not. We are all responsible for each other. Give it a try, see how it feels. Does it shake something up, loosen something in your chest? Good, then keep going. Push yourself.
Give attention to the animals
Your own pets, the ones with the sad eyes waiting for homes, or the wild ones. The ones on the farms, the ones in the fields, or the ones in the stores. The ones in the air, the ones in the water, or the ones in a cage. Find a way to tap in, to connect. Spend time, relax, feel the connection with those who are not human. Donate food, build houses and habitats, offer shelter, sit quietly and relax. Observe, be calm, keep your mind open. Give.
Give away a book
A kid’s book, a textbook, a dictionary, a field guide. Your choice. Write a message on the inside cover. Give it to someone and tell them why. Share the stories, share the stories, share the stories. Freely.
Give your attention to a child
Children love attention, they need it to grow, it helps them thrive. Give it. Read stories, go to a museum, play games, make crafts. Don’t become distracted by phones, by computers, by Tvs. Talk. Ask questions. Treat the kids like human beings. They’ll appreciate it. So will you.
Give away a bag of things
Clothes, bags, shoes, purses, food. Whatever you want to whomever you want. Open the closets and strip the hangers. Shed the weight. Stuff smothers us, clutters our brains, controls us, steals our time, steals our money. Examine what you need and what you want. Ask yourself why you want it. Let it go, let it go, let it go. Make room.
Give away something that someone gave to you
Not in the “I’m going to regift this lame present” kind of way, but in the “this has meaning to me and I love it and I want to share that with someone else” kind of way. The bracelet your boyfriend gave you, the sweater from your aunt, the book from your best friend, the pottery from your Dad. Feel the feelings the object brings up for you, remember who gave it to you and why. Recall the weather that day, the slant of the sun, the flecks of green in your girlfriend’s eyes. Love the memory, let go of the thing. Make a new connection, a new memory. It’s the experience that is real. The object is just a vessel.
Give away a little bit of money
Money is a tricky one, a scary thing, a weighty object to give away. We’ve been taught to hoard, and keep, and collect it at all costs. But what if we challenge that idea? What if we give it away just because we can, because we want to take care of each other, because we want to share? Give just a little bit away. A couple of dollars, a five, a ten. How does it feel? We’re starting small with this one, let’s see how it goes, grow from there.
Give someone something sweet
Think of your favorite desert. Your mom’s famous chocolate cake. The cookies grandma used to bake, the candy your grandfather makes. Find the recipe. Make it, with all the love and good memories you can muster. Then give it away. To a friend, to a stranger, to your coworkers at the office. Share the good feelings, share the sweets. This will make people happy. That is good, pass it around.
Thank you for listening,